Dating culture in sweden
After my girlfriends realized what he had just done, one of them gasped and blurted out, “I’ve never actually seen a Swedish man do that!
If you’re dating a Swedish guy you should be aware that he probably won’t try to woo you in the classical ways.My international friends from university asked me today to explain how dating works in Sweden.Apparently they have trouble getting into the rules of the Swedish dating game.It’s not as easy as going up to someone and offer them a drink or ask them to dance.Many people see this as too forward and will get defensive if they are approached in this way.Case in point: when my American ex-boyfriend came to visit me last year from Geneva, we met two of my girlfriends (one Swedish and one Finnish) for drinks at Story Hotel.
When they had separately stood up to use the bathroom, I noticed how my ex, without speaking, also stood up.
*A couple of years ago there was a hit hip-hop song that played on this.
Well, at least in Stockholm it appears to be that way.
Assuming that things went well at the club, sometime in the next few days one of you (it might just as well be the girl as the boy) will text the other and ask them out for a The fact that both of you are aware that you’re on a date while simultaneously pretending that it’s not a date can make things quite awkward, but that’s how it’s done.
To keep the conversation non-datish, the subjects you talk about are usually very neutral ones such as the housing market, Stockholm versus Gothenburg, how great your i Phones are, or how much the public transportation system irritates you (actually, the Swedish public transportation system is among the best ones in the world).
Try not to get offended or assume that he’s not into you if he doesn’t bring you flowers, if he doesn’t hold the door up for you, if he doesn’t pay for the movie or if he doesn’t offer to walk you home.