Dating pakistan for muslims
I also write about interfaith marriage and my very lovely, often comedic, life with my husband “Bob”.I am a British born, Pakistani, Muslim woman and, if you are anything like me, you will know that these are three incredibly complex states of being to juggle in unison and, short of one being a multi-limbed octopus lady, can rarely be satisfied fully at one time.
You may say that I am as western as they come but I am still so proud of my heritage and the culture and tradition my parents brought me up in.As first generation children born in Britain, I don’t think my parents knew how to handle socialising us with the opposite sex and so the matter was often dealt with the way it typically was in Pakistan and Islam, through segregation of the sexes.For the record, I personally think this is the wrong approach and, on reflection, so does my mum.Dating does not have to mean sleeping around, nor does it mean you are going to Hell for exploring your options.You are, and always will be, completely in control.So, the traditional Pakistani and Muslim approach to marriage was never going to work for me.
I wanted the big, sweeping love story, star-crossed lovers, Romeo and Juliet of it all (without the double suicide at the end, obviously).
Often in my life, I have found difficulty in trying to satisfy all three strands of my religious and cultural identity, particularly when it came to the opposite sex.
As a British woman, it seemed perfectly natural to want to explore my curiosities and fascinations with the world of boys.
Well, thanks for tuning in folks, you may now unbuckle your seatbelts and go about your day.
Next time we shall be tackling Conundrum the Second- So, I’m Ok with dating, now what?
I often liken the South Indian approach to dating to Georgian Britain. It is no wonder then that, when it comes to the world of dating, the Modern Muslim is left rather flummoxed.